Dad would have been 92 yesterday. I marked the day but didn\u2019t think of making a post about it until too late in the day. His loss has receded into the general noise of the past.<\/p>\n
I suppose it happens to everyone. It happened with Zach, too. The date of Zach\u2019s death passed me by completely this year. I literally didn\u2019t think about it at all until a day or two later. That\u2019s a first. I did have an idea for a post on Zach\u2019s birthday but the day slipped away from me. He would\u2019ve been 33.<\/p>\n
With Dad, I\u2019ve been better able to recall the earlier times when he was his real, dynamic self. The last two years of his decline are what we have (mostly) forgotten.<\/p>\n
The other day, Mom had me get out a walker that had been purchased for him. She wants to have it nearby for herself now. It led to some talk about Dad\u2019s last days but in a fairly dispassionate tone. Maybe elegiac or wistful might describe it better. We talked about her and Mary getting him to Christmas Mass in the rain. It turned out to be his last time out.<\/p>\n
Mom had told me she got emotional on Zach\u2019s death date this year but the thought of Dad\u2019s passing doesn\u2019t have the raw emotion attached to it. His death date is coming up in about three weeks, tho\u2019 . . .<\/p>\n
I\u2019m glad I\u2019ve been able to change my focus to birthdays rather than death days. It\u2019s part of looking forward, I believe.<\/p>\n
So, Happy Birthday Dad and Zach! I miss you but I am working on bringing my memories of you to bear in a positive way.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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