I’m never quite sure about using people’s names on this blog. Generally I do it like this.
I got the news today that Tim K died last week. Tim was Tom’s younger brother and in my high school class. In other words, the same age as me.
Thinking back, Tim was really my entree to Tom. Tom, who was so important to me in my early rock band days. Tim and I were in some of the same classes together our Senior year of high school. Perhaps the most important to me was the Period 0 PE class. Because we had a full load of academic classes, we were allowed to take PE – because god forbid you don’t get PE – before the regular classes started. During PE basketball games we could talk to each other and became friends.
Tom was two years older and already off to college by this time but I had been envious of him and his band ‘Native Son’ from a couple of years before. When I wanted to put together a band for a church event, Tom graciously agreed to participate. Without knowing Tim I would have been too scared to talk to him.
The church band became April, which was a real thing for a couple of years. It was real enough for me to quit UCSC the next year because of it.
During those two or three years after high school, Tim and I palled around quite a bit. He often came along when my band was playing. We experimented with our bodies’ tolerance for alcohol. Really gross stuff in hindsight: Mickey’s Big Mouth, Schlitz Malt Liquor, Sloe Gin fizzes, Ouzo.
I don’t remember any incident that split us. Eventually, we just went our separate ways. Tim became an elementary school teacher in Fresno and while my relationship with Tom deepened, it did not carry over to staying in touch with Tim.
Tim never married nor had any long term relationships, as far as I know. Tom is going to Fresno to go through his apartment. I can’t help but think of the surprise we got when we went through Zach’s papers.
I always felt that Tim had so much going for him in high school. He was so gregarious then, it was always a surprise that he was so guarded about his life later. Teaching is an honorable profession but I thought he could have done a lot more. I suppose you could say the same about me. I never heard that alcohol played any part of him being so reticent. I always felt that he got over it as I did.
There is a backlog for the coroner’s autopsy. Maybe we’ll know more next week. In the meanwhile, Rest In Peace Tim. We had some good times together. I learned a lot from you. You deserved better than to die alone.